Ohana Inspiration + Insight: “40 Things I’ve Learned (So Far)” by Christopher Myers

At Ohana, we believe weddings are about more than just gowns—they’re about love, growth, and the journey that brings each bride to her special day. That’s why we’re excited to spotlight Christopher Myers’ essay, “40 Things I’ve Learned (So Far),” a reflection on life, love, and lessons learned, published on The B:Side Way (read it here).

“Love is not a feeling. It’s a choice.”

Life Lessons That Inspire Brides

Christopher’s reflections resonate deeply with anyone planning a wedding. From patience to perspective, his insights remind us that the journey—just like a wedding—is as important as the destination. Brides can take away lessons to help navigate the excitement, stress, and joy of preparing for their big day.

Highlights That Speak to the Bridal Journey

• “Faith is the anchor.” Weddings can be overwhelming. Grounding yourself in love, trust, and belief—whether in your partner, family, or yourself—keeps the process joyful.

• “The person you marry is the most important decision you’ll ever make.” Choosing a partner who supports and uplifts you is at the heart of every celebration. A loving, present partner makes the wedding journey more meaningful.

• “The little moments are the big ones.” From dress fittings to quiet moments with family, these seemingly small experiences become treasured memories for a lifetime.

• “Love is not a feeling. It’s a choice.” Saying “I do” is a reflection of daily commitment, patience, and showing up for one another—principles that guide life long after the wedding day.

• “Be where your feet are.” Planning can pull you in a million directions. Enjoy every fitting, every vendor call, and every moment with loved ones—it all counts.

• “Small steps add up.” Wedding planning can feel monumental. Tackling tasks one step at a time keeps the process manageable and less stressful.

• “Growth requires discomfort.” Trying on gowns, making big decisions, or dealing with family dynamics can be uncomfortable—but it’s part of creating a wedding that reflects your true self.

• “Comparison is poison.” Don’t let Pinterest, Instagram, or other weddings make you feel like you’re behind. Your wedding should be yours—authentic, personal, and reflective of your love story.

• “Take your time—this is it.” Your wedding day is a milestone to savor. Every choice, every fitting, and every laugh along the way is part of your story.

Finding Strength and Beauty in Every Step

At Ohana, our goal is to make each bride’s journey feel calm, confident, and celebrated. Christopher’s reflections echo what many brides feel as they prepare for their wedding: joy mixed with nerves, excitement mixed with reflection. His insights remind us that the love and life you’ve built are the true foundation for your wedding day, and that every challenge or decision along the way shapes the beauty of the celebration.

Take a moment to reflect as you plan your wedding and choose your gown—your journey is just as beautiful as your big day.

Curious to read the full essay? Discover all of Christopher Myers’ reflections and insights here: Read the full essay